Thursday, May 19, 2011

Love + Expat= ???

As you must know by now, my friend Virginie and I, started a vintage business is Hanoi. We run a blog and a facebook page, where most of our collection is presented for sale. Virginie is on holiday so I have to divide my time between wandering-jo.blogspot.com and velvetvintagefashion.tumblr.com ! I feel kind of lost having to manage two blogs at the same time. Please be patient with me, at least until next week!

Anyway I wanted to talk to you about something I recently read online, an article about expat life, or to be more specific about a certain justification for expatriation.

Imagine you are traveling or you are working in a country on the other side of the globe, and the "unexpected" happens...you fall in love and decide to live with the person, you decide to follow someone to the ends of the earth, either to his home country or to the country he presently lives in.

Put aside logic, as love would easily override logic.. yes it can happen! That's exactly what happened to me, leaving everything behind in Beirut, buying a one way ticket to Vietnam. Today, I'm living with my boyfriend, approximately 7000 km away of what I call "home".  

Then when I come to think about it, I often asked myself: so what's my status now? 
I am not a tourist anymore, nor a traveler, as technically I'm not traveling.
So I must be an expat. On the other hand, I wasn't sent to Vietnam on a work mission, I came here deliberately, no one pressured me or whatsoever,  to be with my boyfriend obviously but because I wanted to as well. It was just the right thing to do at the right time.
Am I insane, maybe. Am I in love, definitely!

Anyhow.
And then, this article was published on the web, about people who become expats for love, usually moving to their partner’s home country. There is even a technical world for it, "lovepats"
That's it! I'm a "lovepat"!
And saperlipopette did I meet lots of happy hippy "lovepats" in Hanoi! 

The writer, who's also a "lovepat" herself explains that it's not evident to leave all behind and move to a country you barely know, hoping to meet new interesting people, have a fulfilling job etc etc...
Nothing is easy. But I guess the love of traveling and discovering has a lot to do with it.

I have been traveling all my life and I never want to stop. In my mind, the idea was to find a job where I could be able to travel as much as I can. That's why I chose to study diplomacy. I didn't want to settle down in one place, at least until I decide to have a family. 
And today, I feel so lucky because my boyfriend comes from the same school of thought. We are both citizens of the world!

I like challenges and the adrenaline. I like to try new things, to meet people, to know that I have an international group of friends. Most of all I know that I can pack up and leave to a completely different continent, quickly adapt to the life there and enjoy it. And if we are two on this adventure, that's even better :)

Here is the link to the article: 
http://www.denizenmag.com/2011/05/i-love-you-but-i-want-to-leave/

Enjoy!

Pictures of Vietnam's sky taken in different regions

On the way to Cao Son, 2 kids. The girl was posing in front of the camera.

Rice Paddies

2 comments:

  1. aakhhh the fact that your so happy is sooooooooo beautiful

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  2. God I can understand everything that you say... ;)

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